Understanding Domestic Abuse: Control Over Money, Communication, and Movement.

Domestic abuse is not always physical or even verbal. It can be characterized by control over money, communication, and movement. Often such types of abuse can be difficult to articulate or introduce into evidence. In a recent case, the California Court of Appeal held that “attempts to control, regulate, and monitor a spouse’s finances, economic resources, movements, and access to communications are abuse.”

Control over Money (Financial Abuse)

Financial abuse is a method of keeping a victim trapped in an abusive relationship. The abuser may control spending, withhold access to bank accounts, or demand the victim hand over their paycheck.

• Signs of Financial Abuse

  • Restricting access to bank accounts or credit cards.

  • Forcing the victim to justify every purchase.

  • Withholding money or giving an “allowance.”

  • Sabotaging employment opportunities.

2. Control over Communication

Controlling communication is another form of abuse where the abuser monitors phone calls, texts, emails, or social media. This control aims to isolate the victim from support.

• Signs of Communication Control

  • Monitoring or demanding access to electronic devices.

  • Dictating who the victim can or cannot talk to.

  • Criticizing or humiliating the victim for communicating with others.

3. Control over Movement

This form of abuse restricts the victim’s ability to move freely, controlling where they go, who they see, and even what they wear. It leads to a loss of personal freedom and autonomy.

• Signs of Movement Control

  • Demanding to know the victim's whereabouts at all times.

  • Restricting access to transportation.

  • Using threats or intimidation to prevent the victim from leaving home.

Conclusion

Recognizing these forms of abuse is crucial, as is seeking professional help from counselors, support groups, or local domestic violence hotlines. If you or someone you know is experiencing these challenges, remember that resources are available to provide assistance and support. Your safety and well-being should be the top priority.